August 13th, 2020
So.. you were flattened by the train. What now? Check the last “School of Susan” blog for more on the train reference.
If applicable; talk to a lawyer. Consults are most often free and questions can be cleared up pretty quickly.
Sleep. Seriously. If you can make sure to get a solid 8 to 10 hours. Your brain will process everything that is going on while you sleep and if you give it that time facing the day will seem more manageable. The only caveat to this is if you keep using sleep to avoid life. It’s okay on occasion but if it becomes a regular thing please seek some professional help that allows you to move forward safely.
Learn from your mistakes, but make sure to also give yourself credit for what you did right. Do not take on blame that isn’t yours. It may take awhile to sort out what is what (lists are your friend) but the clarity will be worth it.
Look your anger in the eye and recognize any urge you might have for vengeance. See it for what it is; I get it, wanting pain to be inflected on those that did it to you is a natural response, but it’s just your ego throwing a tamper tantrum. You are more than your ego.
You don’t have to forgive or forget.. but you do need to move on.
Don’t be afraid to kick people off the pedestal you put them on. Those places of influence are earned, which means they can also be lost. Fill that space with people that deserve it, and leave it empty until you find the right fit.
Accomplish one thing a day. Just. One. Thing. Some days it might be two, or a half dozen, other days that one thing will require an amazing amount of will power. When I say accomplish one thing a day I don’t mean it has to be on an epic level. Rearrange the cutlery draw. Make your bed. Buy some fresh flowers. Learn to make pancakes. Get it done.. start to finish.. and take a moment when it’s done to recognize that you did it.
At the end of the day close your eyes and feel that someone is cheering for you. Even if you don’t know them, someone in the world (or even a higher power) has your back in ways you don’t even know about yet.