March 21st, 2018
I am calling 49 my “good-bye” year as I gear up to say “hello” to 50 and all that this stage of life has to offer!
So I made a list.
This list is the top 49 lessons of the last 49 years. I didn’t include a few big ones like learning to walk, potty training and speech.. but they are kind of a given, mind you learning to spell anything longer than the word “cat” was fairly monumental in my life.
Anyhoo.. here we go!
#1. Laser Hair Removal. If you want to be hairless it is 100% worth it.
#2. Buy clothes that fit. Seriously, don’t even worry about that stupid number, just buy what fits, it looks better and you will be more comfortable.
#3. Cry with yourself, but have a time limit. We all need a pity party now and then, watch those tears pour down your face and have a good melt down, then move on.
#4. Love Fearlessly. It’s the only way. It will lead to hurt so bad you want to rip your heart out, but big picture totally worth it.
#5. Learn now to manage your money and learn young. Start HERE
#6. Compliment often. Strangers, coworkers, friends, lovers! If they say, wear, do, create something you like – tell them.
#7. Say Hi to strangers. Everyday.
#8. Live for someone else, even if it’s just for a moment.
#9. Be clear in what you want, in life, love and professionally.
#10. Do the work.
#11. Celebrate the smallest of victories both professionally and personally.
#12. Be true to you but gut check often and listen to what others are saying both verbally and non verbally.
#13. Learn to shut up.
#14. Sometimes it’s okay to be totally unreasonably. Just don’t make it a habit and accept the repercussions.
#16. Praise publicly.
#17. Correct privately.
#18. Make mistakes – and own them.
#19. Find the best. Watch, ask, mimic, move on.
#20. See their faults. Accept them.
#21. Be kind, when it’s the last thing you want to do.
#22. Happy thoughts – you control your mind. (thanks Bob)
#23. Listen to all – Decide for yourself
#24. Respect hierarchy but don’t let it hold you back.
#25. Find your tribe. Love your tribe. Know it will change.
#26. Have a “go to” outfit (casual / dressy / professional)
#27. Have a “go to” fancy and comfort food meal.
#28. Quit smoking. Seriously. Shut up and quit smoking.
#29. Have an up to date passport.
#30. Cut ties. Family, friends, professional contacts. If you have to, do it. Do it simply, professionally, and with class but move on.
#31. Ask Questions. If you don’t get the knowledge you need ask different questions or ask different people. Don’t stop.
#32. Be solution driven.
#33. Try it.
#34. Make sure that person is okay. The person crying in the bathroom stall, the person that hopefully is sleeping on the park bench, the person that just seems off..
#35. Learn to speak hypothetical.
#36. Social media isn’t the enemy. The way you use it is.
#38. What goes around comes around — sometime YOU are the come around.
#39. Lose with class.
#40. It’s not all about you and that’s okay.
#41. Help when you can and sometimes when you don’t think you can.
#42. Seek help when you need it, and do it quickly.
#43. The only person that defines your success is you. Understand this is a blessing and a curse.
#44. You will change. Physically, emotionally and spiritually.
#46. Do what scares you – on your own time.
#47. Leave when unhappy. Do not stay in a marriage, work situation or place that makes you fundamentally miserable, Before you leave be confident you tried to make it work.
#48.Laugh at yourself. You’re funny.
#49. Give ALL the F&C@s. The world is worth you caring.